It’s my birthday in two weeks and it is one of the most important days of my life. If you never saw my birthday post of 2019, you can check it out here.
This year, I’m in a different mood. Maybe it’s the new world we find ourselves in but I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about my 27 years on earth and what I’ll take into year 28.
In the moment, year 26 seemed kind of trash. It was the year I lost some friendships and found myself battling negative behaviours I thought I left behind. It opened old wounds and took me back a couple steps but in hindsight it was the year I needed.
Year 27 has been interesting to say the least. It started kind out good then dipped BADLY, then I had some of the best moments of my life and now ends here with me at peace in the middle of a global pandemic.
Year 27 was a year I couldn’t imagine and I have pretty active imagination. I’ve spent the better part of the past 75 days alone and that will not change anytime soon.
Last night, for the first time in the year, I was overwhelmed by God’s love, the journey of 27 and the lessons that would make the foundation of year 28.
Maybe these aren’t new or I knew them before but now more than ever, I have clarity & that’s what makes the difference:
Lesson 1: On God & Faith
- Find God – away from your parents, the church, your friend, society or whatever else. If you can’t find Him in yourself you won’t find Him anywhere else.
- Faith is probably the most important thing to have in life. It’ll serve you on your best and worst days. The very essence of your life depends on it.
Lesson 2: On Values & Ethics
- Your 20s are for re-parenting yourself. Question everything – your goals, your history, your identity, the principles that brought you this far.
- Knock everything down & rebuild on a foundation of love
Lesson 3: On Redemption & Repentance
- It is necessary to deal with your trauma to move forward. Peace is attainable.
- Forgive yourself.
- Forgive others no matter the crime. Forgiveness & justice can exist in the same space.
- If you can, fix what your trauma broke in others. It is also your responsibility to break the cycle.
Lesson 4: On Friendship
- Friendships should be built on core values & the principles of forgiveness.
- When (if) they end, mourn them and honour your new dynamic with the same principles as before. At some point, they served you well
Lesson 5: On Work & Career
- Do what you love or love what you do. Work that exists without love is slavery. Work is worship. If it doesn’t feel like it, you should not be there.
- No amount of money is worth your peace of mind. Treat skills as a business & go where they’re honoured.
- Never be afraid to start over as many times as is required. The goal is peace. Always choose peace.
Lesson 6: On Growth & Personal Development
- It is never too late to become a better person, start where you are. We’re all learning.
- Pray & pray often. The principle of prayer is the best way to learn to communicate.
- Develop assertive communication & emotional intelligence
- Read more, explore more, learn to be a good listener.
- Be kind
Lesson 7: On Love, Dating & Romantic Relationships
- Loving singleness has been a breeze. I am one of those people that find great comfort in being alone. My season of singleness has been good to me. Learn to love singleness. Make peace with the possibility of it being permanent.
- Dating & Romance are some of my hardest lessons. I’m learning to be more purposeful with who I share my time with and why. It’s more about the details like asking my opinion on life choices or knowing you pray for me and will be there in the things I need. We still love the glitz but the beauty of an “ordinary love” filled with chores and boring life talk can never be dethroned.
- Internally, I’m learning to improve communication. Not everything needs to be said. The things that are said can also wait a day or two especially when something has disrupted your mood.
- Tell people how much you love them. If the pandemic is showing us anything, it is how fragile life is. Apologize the second you realise you made a mistake, resolve conflict as it arises. Leave no room for discord.
- Be teachable, forgiving & always leave room for growth
When the dust settles, I’m eager to see where the journey of 28 takes me. Until next time, stay safe